Asexuality is a sexual orientation characterised by a lack of sexual attraction or interest in sexual activity. Asexual individuals may experience romantic or emotional attraction, but they do not experience sexual attraction. This orientation exists on a spectrum and includes various identities, such as grey-asexuality and demisexuality.
While asexual individuals have always existed, it is only in recent years that the term and identity have gained recognition and acceptance. However, asexual individuals still face many challenges, including stigma, lack of representation, and difficulties in finding supportive communities and relationships.
Challenges Faced by Asexual People
One of the biggest challenges for asexual individuals is the lack of understanding and recognition of their identity. Asexuality is often overlooked or misunderstood, and many people assume everyone experiences sexual attraction. This can lead to feelings of invalidation and isolation, as asexual individuals may struggle to find others who understand and accept them.
Additionally, asexual individuals may face pressure to conform to societal expectations around sexuality and relationships. This can include pressure to engage in sexual activity or to pursue romantic relationships that do not align with their feelings and desires. This can lead to feelings of anxiety, shame, and low self-esteem.
Media Depictions of Asexual People
Asexual individuals are often underrepresented or misrepresented in the media. They are often portrayed as cold or emotionless, or their lack of sexual attraction is portrayed as a problem that needs to be fixed. This can perpetuate harmful stereotypes and further stigmatise asexuality.
However, there are positive depictions of asexuality in the media. For example, the popular TV show “Bojack Horseman” features an asexual character, Todd, who is portrayed as a fully realised and complex individual. This representation helps normalise asexuality and promote understanding and acceptance.
Supporting Asexual People
One of the most important things we can do to support asexual individuals is listen to and validate their experiences. We can also work to educate ourselves and others about asexuality and promote acceptance and understanding.
Supportive communities and resources can also be beneficial for asexual individuals. This can include online forums and social media groups, as well as in-person meetups and events. Therapy and counselling can also be helpful for individuals struggling with the challenges of asexuality.
Quick Facts About Asexual People
- Asexual individuals do not experience sexual attraction or desire.
- Asexuality is a valid and recognised sexual orientation.
- Asexual individuals may experience romantic or emotional attraction, but not sexual attraction.
- Asexual individuals exist on a spectrum, and there are various identities within the asexual community.
- Asexual individuals may face stigma, lack of representation, and difficulty finding supportive communities and relationships.
- Aotearoa Asexuals: A Facebook group for asexual individuals
- Asexual Awareness Week NZ: An annual awareness-raising event for asexual individuals and allies
- OUTLine NZ: A support and counselling service for the LGBTQ+ community
- Gender Minorities Aotearoa: An organisation that advocates for the rights and well-being of gender minorities
- RainbowYOUTH: A youth-led organisation that provides support, resources, and advocacy for LGBTQ+ youth